here's how to save your friendships

9 July 2017

Friendship is getting harder. 
Why? Because as Millennials we're not only moving further and further away from the ones that we love and cherish, but we're also becoming much more attached to instant messaging as means of communication.
In today’s world our frenetic schedules mean that we so rarely get to connect properly anymore with friends afar. To collude, to chat, to wrap up in another’s accent or eyes. Instead, we waltz on by each other’s lives, occasionally sending brief snippets of text through iMessage, WhatsApp, or whatever medium becomes our weapon of choice.
We're too busy, or our timezones are adrift. The friends you used to catch on your lunch, now require a late-night phone-de-vous, and even then there's hardly often hours to spare. Thus occasionally we retreat into the impersonal realm of scatty, surface-level contact, finding it impossible to lock each other down. And you know what, occasionally it's just not enough.
Three months ago I left the U.K. It was on a mission of discovery, calm and clarity that I took off. So I went, and here still I am, trying to find a balance in fully embracing my new ventures, while still keeping my beautiful friendships in tact. 
Recently something happened that changed everything... 
Someone sent me a WhatsApp Voice Message. Yup. A recorded voice note of such. Hearing their voice was the antidote I needed — five minutes of unadulterated energy. It was a ramble, sure, but hearing the intimacies of my friend’s intonations filled me with the deepest sense of comfort. A postcard from home. It was exactly what I needed to reignite that sense of security, restoring my faith in long-distance friendship.
I sent one back. God, it was fiddly holding down the buttons. But I did it! Off into the aether of the internet, and I was in awe.
It didn’t sap away my time; it didn’t even really feel like I was on social media, if you know what I mean. It felt real, in the way that only a phone-call or in an-person encounter can be…
And now? I'm converted. The Voice Message caters to the time-starved, and to your human urges for connection. It caters to the nostalgic who love mementos, and even to those who just *love* to hear their own voice (it’s so strange to hear yourself chirp away, but strangely satisfying). 
Until we meet again my friend, I'll send you my voice and receive yours gleefully.

x

2 comments

  1. Such a beautiful post that has really resonated with me. Thank you <3 xx

    Lynsey || One More Slice

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  2. ah, me and my friend do this all the time! every week or so we'll leave eachother massssive long 5-10 minute long voice message. it's so lovely to hear her actual voice and get an insight into her life, especially when organising a phone call when we're both free at the same time is so tricky!


    katie xx lacoconoire.com

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